On Faith, Doubt and Turning Up

The Parish Life

by TOM KENNAR

Observed humour and gentle theology from the fictional parish of St Faithful's Havnot

About The Book

This book began, as many modern parish initiatives do, with reluctance.

For some time, the idea had been gently but persistently suggested that the life of the parish might benefit from a Facebook presence. Not a website, you understand — that was beyond our competence entirely — but something more immediate, more conversational, more “engaging”. Something, in short, that might reassure the wider community that the church was still here, still alive, and still capable of forming complete sentences in public.

The suggestion was met, at first, with dignified resistance. Then with weary sighing. And finally — following what could fairly be described as administrative persistence — with acceptance.

And so St Faithful’s, Havnot acquired a Facebook page. What followed was not, I think, what anyone quite expected.

At first, the page did exactly what it said on the tin. Notices were posted. Services advertised. Clarifications offered. People were thanked. Times were confirmed. Then confirmed again. And then, for avoidance of doubt, confirmed once more.

But something else began to happen alongside this worthy administrative labour. Voices emerged. Not corporate voices, or carefully sanitised institutional ones, but recognisably human ones: exasperated, affectionate, opinionated, weary, proud, anxious, hopeful. The parish — that strange, living organism — began to speak.

The Verger discovered that Facebook could be used to manage expectations. The Administrator discovered that Facebook could be used to clarify misunderstandings before they became meetings. The Churchwarden discovered that Facebook could be used to educate the public — whether the public had asked to be educated or not. The Organist discovered that Facebook could, under protest, be tolerated.

And the Vicar discovered that Facebook had a long memory and a worrying fondness for honesty.

What you are holding is not a strategy document, nor a guide to digital evangelism, nor an argument for or against social media. It is, rather, a loosely ordered record of what happened when a fictional parish allowed itself to be seen — not as it wished to be imagined, but as it actually is.

St Faithful’s, Havnot is not a real place. But anyone who has spent time in a parish will recognise it immediately.

You will recognise the tone of certain notices.

The precise wording of clarifications.

The way small irritations reveal larger truths.

The way order, devotion, chaos, holiness, and humour occupy the same physical space — often simultaneously.

This is a parish where dogs howl during the Gloria, toddlers encounter the doctrine of the Incarnation at close range, bells ring at inconvenient moments, and holiness occasionally snores under the pews. It is also a parish sustained by extraordinary loyalty, unseen labour, fierce care for shared things, and a stubborn belief that God has not given up on the Church — however tempting that thought may sometimes be.

The Facebook posts gathered here were not written with a book in mind. They were written to explain, to invite, to apologise, to reflect, to clarify, to sigh, and occasionally to laugh before something became unbearable. Read together, they form a kind of accidental chronicle: not of events so much as of relationships — between people, between tradition and change, between order and grace.

If there is theology here, it is not systematic. It emerges sideways: in the Verger’s anxiety about reverence, in the Curate’s survival of liturgical excess, in the Vicar’s encounters at ceilidhs and dawns and locked churches. It is theology lived before it is named — which is, arguably, how most theology actually functions.

This book does not ask you to admire the Church. Nor does it invite you to mock it. It simply asks you to recognise it — in all its muddle, beauty, irritation, and quiet faithfulness.

And if, along the way, you find yourself laughing, wincing, nodding, or thinking, Yes. That. Exactly that — then the page has probably done what it was meant to do.

Welcome to St Faithful’s, Havnot.

“I've never laughed so much on a religious website”

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“Are you sure you haven't visited our church? It sounds exactly like us!”

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“Please stop it! I spat my tea all over my jumper.”

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“Ah! So you've given us loads of comedy to smuggle in a bit of (really quite good) theology. I see your game now!”

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Tom Kennar

Church of England priest, musician and social entrepreneur

Tom Kennar is the rector of Havant, in Hampshire (on the south coast, between the cathedral cities of Portsmouth and Chichester). He is an honorary canon of three cathedrals, Portsmouth and, in Ghana, Cape Coast and Ho (as a result of his ministry there over the years). Tom holds a masters degree in Christian Ministry and Mission. From 1985 to 2000 he was a leader in the YMCA movement and then an advisor to HM Government (2000-2005). Ordained in 2005, Tom brings his experiences of the voluntary and government sectors into his ministry today as a priest and social entrepreneur. His prime goal is to help people discover their own passions, gifts and abilities, rooted in a real and honest faith, to meet the challenges of our time, and to participate, with God, in the building of His ‘kingdom on earth as it is in heaven’. He has published five books: 'Scribblings' (a collection of sermons, stories blog posts and a Ghana diary), 'Lockdown Lines' (a collection of sermons by Tom, with other material shared by his parishioners during the Covid pandemic) and 'Faith on The Way' (a collection of sermons and Facebook posts from 2025) and two volumes of stories about the fictional parish of St Faithful's, Havnot. All of these books can be printed on demand from this site.

More Books by Tom Kennar

The Parish Life - Volume 3

More stories from St Faithful's, Havnot

by TOM KENNAR

The Crack in the Wall

Faith, conflict and the future of the Parish

by Tom Kennar

The Parish Life Volume 2

More stories from St Faithful's, Havnot

by TOM KENNAR

Faith on The Way

A year of Progressive sermons that are unafraid of doubt, attentive to injustice, and grounded in a deep love of Scripture.

by Tom Kennar

Scribblings

A collection of short talks, homilies, stories, journals and pithy reflections is a snap-shot of the life and work of a parish priest, during the approximate decade from around 2009 to 2020

by Tom Kennar

Lockdown Lines

A collection of original reflections, sermons, autobiographies, local history and poetry from the Pandemic of 2020.

by Tom Kennar & Parishioners