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Creating a Healthy Family Culture

The Kind of Family We Build

by Dr Randall Bixby and Lesli Lamb-Bixby

When a noisy Saturday morning turns into hurt feelings and sharp words, the Carter family learns to pause, name their emotions, and choose kindness. Guided by Mom, Dad, and Papa Joe, the children discover that healthy family culture grows when God’s character leads their responses, bringing peace back home.

About The Book

Book Two in The Carter Family Legacy Series, a 15 book family discipleship curriculum for ages 5-9 complete with an engaging story, a Parent Guide including discussion questions and family exercises to practice the learning from the books. The children''s books are also a companion series to The Family School 15 lesson journey for parents.

“"Our family has been blessed by these books and it is helping us instill biblical values in our children. "”

Mike Shaw

Family Reformation Project

Family Reformation Project

Dr Randall Bixby is a best selling author and co-founder with Lesli Lamb-Bixby of The Family Reformation Project- a global movement to restore families to God's design.

Dr Randall and Lesli are first and foremost a son and daughter of God. Randy and Lesli have a blended family with 5 children and 14 grandchildren! They reside in Surprise, Arizona. They are ICF certified executive and life coaches, authors, trainers, speakers, ministers and co-founders of Cultural Architects and The Family Reformation Project- a global movement to restore families to God’s design. They are Co-hosts of the Podcast- Transforming Families with Randy and Lesli and are co-founders of “The Family School”. Learn more about Family School and all of the coaching, equipping and resources at www.winthefamily.org

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Building Trust and Keeping Agreements

As the Carter family prepares for a park day, Grace forgets their agreement and makes everyone late. Instead of blaming, the family chooses honesty, apology, and repair. Through gentle guidance, they learn that keeping promises builds trust, responsibility, and stronger relationships—showing God’s design for family life together.

Learning to Listen

Hearing One Another to Understand

At a noisy family dinner, the Carter children talk over one another until Mom and Dad help them pause and listen with patience. As each person feels heard, the family discovers that listening is a loving reflection of God’s character, bringing peace, understanding, and kindness back to their home.

Choosing God's Way

Agreeing with Truth

When Noah realizes he didn’t finish his homework, he must choose between hiding the truth or admitting it. With gentle guidance from his family, he learns that feelings are real but not in charge. By agreeing with God’s truth, Noah discovers honesty brings peace, courage, and strength to family life.

The Gift of Forgiveness

Repairing Relationships and Being Free

After Noah breaks Grace’s favorite marker, anger and silence fill the Carter home. With loving guidance from Mom, Dad, and Papa Joe, the children learn that forgiveness does not erase hurt, but it brings healing. As Grace forgives Noah, the family discovers repair, freedom, peace, and God’s heart together.

Who We Are

Discovering Our Family Identity

As Papa Joe shares the family photo album, the Carters discover that every family has a story shaped by joy, hardship, and God’s grace. Together, they name the kind of family they want to be—loving, honest, forgiving, and growing—learning that identity shapes purpose, belonging, and legacy across generations. Book Seven in The Carter Family Legacy Series, a 15 book family discipleship curriculum for ages 5-9 complete with an engaging story, a Parent Guide including discussion questions and family exercises to practice the learning from the books. The children''s books are also a companion series to The Family School 15 lesson journey for parents.

Who We Are Becoming

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As the Carter family reflects on who they are, they also begin choosing who they want to become. With prayer, conversation, and shared values, they dream about a future marked by patience, bravery, kindness, and faithfulness—learning that healthy family culture is built intentionally, together, in God’s way.

Our Family Shield

Identity Made Visible

As the Carter family reflects on who they are and who they are becoming, Papa Joe introduces the idea of a family shield. Together they choose symbols of love, listening, repair, and light, creating a visible reminder of God’s design for family and the values they want to live each day.

Our Family Table

The Power of Gathering

The Carter family discovers that their table is more than a place to eat—it is where hearts connect, love is practiced, and God’s character is reflected. Through shared stories, Scripture, apology, and forgiveness, they learn that gathering together builds belonging, strengthens identity, and helps families grow in love.

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Guiding Without Shame

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Live, Laugh, Learn

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Live, Laugh, Learn On a messy, marvelous day, the Carters cook, camp in the living room, and hit snags. Tempers flare, giggles return. Together they pause, name feelings, breathe, and choose better actions. Joy and learning grow side by side as the family discovers feelings are real—but wisdom and love lead them forward.

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As One—Facing Hard Times Together When a sudden health scare hits, the Carters gather at the table. They list what’s known and unknown, share fears and hopes, pray, and choose small next steps. Each takes a role—calls, meals, encouragement. Moving together as one, they find courage, peace, and practical help for the journey ahead together.

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Passing on the Most Important Things On a backyard treasure hunt, Papa Joe leads the Carters to hidden clues: wisdom at the table, a quiet prayer spot, stories of faith, and the family shield. As they piece it together, the children see God’s treasures are lived, shared, and passed on—one ordinary, faithful day at a time.

Passing the Torch

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Passing the Torch At a candlelit table, the Carters gather with grandparents and friends. One by one, blessings are spoken over Noah, Grace, and Leo—stories remembered, strengths named, futures prayed. A torch is passed as light, words, and love mark their hearts, sending them forward to lead with courage and faith and joy.