A direct and simple approach to emotional regulation, be-ing calm, understanding yourself and self-coaching through any situation, so you can...be.

BE

by Nolan Collins

About The Book

"BE" - Master the Mechanics of Emotional Regulation and Self-Coaching

Ever wonder why you can be perfectly calm one moment, then completely reactive the next?

Why the same trigger affects you differently on different days? Why some people seem naturally centred while you feel like you're constantly fighting to stay balanced?

"BE" reveals the actual mechanics behind emotional regulation—and gives you the tools to master them.

This Isn't About Managing Emotions

Most approaches teach you to cope with feelings after they arise. "BE" shows you how to understand the fundamental drivers that create those feelings in the first place.

The Complete Self-Coaching System

• The BE Elements Framework - Discover how Safety, Gain/Loss, Clarity/Confusion, and Self/Ego work together as your internal operating system. Learn to read your emotional dashboard like a pilot reads instruments.
• The Experience Loop - Understand the precise five-stage process that creates every pattern in your life. See exactly where intervention points exist to break cycles that don't serve you.
• The RAMP-IT Implementation System - Bridge the gap between insight and action with six proven components that turn understanding into permanent change.

For People Who Want to Understand the 'Why'
This book is for analytical minds who need to understand how things work, not just what to do:

- Map your emotional patterns with scientific precision
- Identify root causes instead of chasing symptoms
- Develop systematic approaches to any challenging situation
- Build a personalised toolkit based on your unique triggers and responses
- Create sustainable change through understanding, not willpower

READERS ARE EXPERIENCING REAL TRANSFORMATION:
"This isn't just another self-help book. It gave me a complete system for understanding myself and practical tools for creating change. I've read dozens of books on personal growth, but this is the first one that connected all the dots." — Reader review

"I finally understand why I keep having the same reactions even when I promise myself I won't. The Experience Loop showed me exactly where I've been getting stuck for years, and RAMP-IT gave me a clear path forward." — Reader review

What Makes This Different
"BE" treats emotional regulation as a learnable skill set, not a mysterious art. You'll get clear frameworks, practical exercises, and a logical progression that builds mastery over time.

PERFECT FOR:

- Analytical minds who need systematic approaches
- People in high-stress roles who need reliable emotional regulation
- Parents and partners who want to understand their reactions
- Anyone who coaches others and needs frameworks to share
- Individuals tired of quick fixes who want lasting understanding

From chaos to clarity. From reactive to responsive. From confused to confident.
Get "BE" and master the science of staying centred.

NolanCollins

Nolan Collins is a transformational coach and author who combines his diverse background across fine dining, ballroom dancing, massage therapy, and digital marketing with a remarkable gift for spotting patterns in human behavior to create accessible frameworks for personal growth.

From orchestrating servers in fine-dining restaurants to teaching massage therapy, from gliding across ballroom floors as a dancer to navigating the ever-changing world of digital marketing, Nolan has developed an exceptional ability to spot patterns where others see chaos. This pattern-recognition talent has become Nolan's signature strength, allowing him to create frameworks that make complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable. His experience teaching ballroom dancing even inspired his unique approach to parenting—once teaching his children to ride bikes using dancer's frame concepts, helping them master the skill in minutes. After facing significant personal challenges, including the shutdown of his business that led to losses of his house, cars, and self-respect, Nolan found himself in a dark place emotionally. What kept him going was the love for his children, even as he struggled to process why his life had fallen apart despite his previous resilience. This period of personal turmoil became the catalyst for Nolan's transformative work. While teaching digital marketing to apprentices, many of whom were struggling with their own sense of direction, he began developing frameworks to help them navigate shifts and changes in their lives. It was through this teaching that the RAMPIT Framework was born, followed by his discovery of the four BE Elements that drive emotional reactions. The impact of these frameworks on Nolan's own life was profound. His relationship with his children, which had deteriorated during difficult times, dramatically improved. As his son recently shared in a message that moved Nolan to tears: "We've come a long way since then. I love you." It was living proof that when Nolan changed his approach using the BE Elements, relationships around him transformed too. Today, Nolan is dedicated to sharing his frameworks for emotional regulation and self-coaching through his books, courses, and community programs. His writing style balances depth with accessibility, often using humor and personal stories to illustrate complex concepts. He has a gift for making readers feel as though he's speaking directly to them in a compassionate, empowering conversation. Nolan now lives near Cambridge, UK, where he enjoys countryside walks with his dog Saxon and continues to develop his passion for motorbike riding. Most importantly, he has learned to "be present" and reconnect with parts of himself he had lost along the way, embodying the principles he now teaches others. In Nolan's own words: "The more work I do on myself, the more I discover bits of me that make life richer—being present, being happy, being loved, and just being more me for myself and all the people in my life."

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