How Small Daily Gestures Create Deeper Intimacy and Stronger Relationships

The Art Of Non-Sexual Foreplay - Book 1 - A Guide for Men

by Nolan Collins

About The Book

What if the secret to a deeper, more passionate relationship had nothing to do with the bedroom?

Most men think foreplay starts 10 minutes before intimacy.

They're missing the point entirely.

Real foreplay happens all day long. It's in the way you brush her hair from her face during conversation. How you remember her favorite coffee order. The lingering hand on her back as you guide her through a doorway. These seemingly small gestures create the foundation for profound connection—and ironically, often lead to more intimacy than any "bedroom technique" ever could.

In "The Art of Non-Sexual Foreplay," you'll discover:

• 100+ specific gestures that make her feel truly seen and cherished
• The 11 essential principles that transform ordinary actions into powerful connection
• Why women crave this type of attention (and how it benefits you both)
• Simple ways to create intimacy during everyday moments
• How to build the emotional safety that deepens physical connection
• Why each of the gestures works
• Sample phrases to use to help strengthen each gesture (and when to not talk too!)

This isn't about manipulation or "earning points"—it's about becoming the kind of man who naturally makes his partner feel valued, appreciated, and deeply loved.

Reader Reviews:
"My husband started doing just three things from this book and I noticed immediately. Our whole dynamic shifted." - Sarah M.

"Finally, a book that gets it. These aren't tricks—they're skills every man should learn." - David K.

Whether you're newlyweds or celebrating decades together, these timeless principles will transform your relationship one thoughtful gesture at a time.

Your relationship deserves this level of attention. She deserves to feel this cherished. Start today.

NolanCollins

Nolan Collins is a transformational coach and author who combines his diverse background across fine dining, ballroom dancing, massage therapy, and digital marketing with a remarkable gift for spotting patterns in human behavior to create accessible frameworks for personal growth.

From orchestrating servers in fine-dining restaurants to teaching massage therapy, from gliding across ballroom floors as a dancer to navigating the ever-changing world of digital marketing, Nolan has developed an exceptional ability to spot patterns where others see chaos. This pattern-recognition talent has become Nolan's signature strength, allowing him to create frameworks that make complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable. His experience teaching ballroom dancing even inspired his unique approach to parenting—once teaching his children to ride bikes using dancer's frame concepts, helping them master the skill in minutes. After facing significant personal challenges, including the shutdown of his business that led to losses of his house, cars, and self-respect, Nolan found himself in a dark place emotionally. What kept him going was the love for his children, even as he struggled to process why his life had fallen apart despite his previous resilience. This period of personal turmoil became the catalyst for Nolan's transformative work. While teaching digital marketing to apprentices, many of whom were struggling with their own sense of direction, he began developing frameworks to help them navigate shifts and changes in their lives. It was through this teaching that the RAMPIT Framework was born, followed by his discovery of the four BE Elements that drive emotional reactions. The impact of these frameworks on Nolan's own life was profound. His relationship with his children, which had deteriorated during difficult times, dramatically improved. As his son recently shared in a message that moved Nolan to tears: "We've come a long way since then. I love you." It was living proof that when Nolan changed his approach using the BE Elements, relationships around him transformed too. Today, Nolan is dedicated to sharing his frameworks for emotional regulation and self-coaching through his books, courses, and community programs. His writing style balances depth with accessibility, often using humor and personal stories to illustrate complex concepts. He has a gift for making readers feel as though he's speaking directly to them in a compassionate, empowering conversation. Nolan now lives near Cambridge, UK, where he enjoys countryside walks with his dog Saxon and continues to develop his passion for motorbike riding. Most importantly, he has learned to "be present" and reconnect with parts of himself he had lost along the way, embodying the principles he now teaches others. In Nolan's own words: "The more work I do on myself, the more I discover bits of me that make life richer—being present, being happy, being loved, and just being more me for myself and all the people in my life."

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