(That could have changed your life, and will change your kids’ lives.)
by Nolan Collins
In this groundbreaking book, you'll discover the five critical conversations that most parents never have with their children—not because they don't care, but because they lack the frameworks to understand what's really happening beneath behaviours, reactions, and family patterns.
"This book provides the exact blueprint for ensuring your children have a fundamentally different experience than you did. I've never seen these concepts explained with such clarity and practical application." — Dr. Rebecca J, Child Development Specialist
The 5 Phases Framework Reveals:
How your parents' unexamined identity beliefs shaped their parenting in ways they never recognised
Why distinguishing between "affected" and "afflicted" transforms how you process childhood experiences
The four hidden emotional drivers that explain your parents' most puzzling reactions
How to identify and break free from generational loops that have persisted for decades
The missing implementation system that turns insights into lasting change
Through engaging storytelling set during a weekend lakeside retreat, you'll follow a father and his adult children as they explore these transformative concepts together, creating a powerful model for the conversations you can have with your own family.
"As someone who's worked with troubled families for over 25 years, I can confidently say this framework addresses the root causes I see daily. This isn't just another parenting book—it's a complete paradigm shift in how we understand family dynamics." — Martin F, Family Therapist
This Book Is For You If:
You've ever wondered "Why did they do that?" about your parents' behaviour
You notice yourself repeating patterns you promised you'd never continue
You want to give your children the understanding you never received
You're committed to ending generational cycles of misunderstanding
You're ready to transform not just how you parent, but how you understand yourself
Drawing on 30+ years of practical application in teaching, training and behaviour reflection across diverse industries and groups, these frameworks are helping families around the world break free from limiting patterns and create fundamentally different family experiences.
"I've read dozens of books on parenting and healing from childhood experiences. This one stands alone in its ability to connect personal transformation with practical parenting approaches. The 5 Phases framework has changed how I see myself, my parents, and most importantly, how I raise my own children." — Sophia W, Mother and CEO
The conversations in this book go beyond typical parenting advice. They address the fundamental drivers of human behaviour that your parents likely never understood about themselves—let alone had the tools to explain to you.
But you can be different. You can have these conversations. And they can change everything.
Get your copy today and begin the conversations that could transform your family for generations to come.
"In thirty years of clinical practice, I've never encountered a more accessible and practical framework for understanding family dynamics. This book should be required reading for every parent, therapist, and anyone seeking to understand why we function the way we do, and how that translates to family relationships" — Dr. James C, Clinical Psychologist
Nolan Collins is a transformational coach and author who combines his diverse background across fine dining, ballroom dancing, massage therapy, and digital marketing with a remarkable gift for spotting patterns in human behavior to create accessible frameworks for personal growth.
From orchestrating servers in fine-dining restaurants to teaching massage therapy, from gliding across ballroom floors as a dancer to navigating the ever-changing world of digital marketing, Nolan has developed an exceptional ability to spot patterns where others see chaos. This pattern-recognition talent has become Nolan's signature strength, allowing him to create frameworks that make complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable. His experience teaching ballroom dancing even inspired his unique approach to parenting—once teaching his children to ride bikes using dancer's frame concepts, helping them master the skill in minutes. After facing significant personal challenges, including the shutdown of his business that led to losses of his house, cars, and self-respect, Nolan found himself in a dark place emotionally. What kept him going was the love for his children, even as he struggled to process why his life had fallen apart despite his previous resilience. This period of personal turmoil became the catalyst for Nolan's transformative work. While teaching digital marketing to apprentices, many of whom were struggling with their own sense of direction, he began developing frameworks to help them navigate shifts and changes in their lives. It was through this teaching that the RAMPIT Framework was born, followed by his discovery of the four BE Elements that drive emotional reactions. The impact of these frameworks on Nolan's own life was profound. His relationship with his children, which had deteriorated during difficult times, dramatically improved. As his son recently shared in a message that moved Nolan to tears: "We've come a long way since then. I love you." It was living proof that when Nolan changed his approach using the BE Elements, relationships around him transformed too. Today, Nolan is dedicated to sharing his frameworks for emotional regulation and self-coaching through his books, courses, and community programs. His writing style balances depth with accessibility, often using humor and personal stories to illustrate complex concepts. He has a gift for making readers feel as though he's speaking directly to them in a compassionate, empowering conversation. Nolan now lives near Cambridge, UK, where he enjoys countryside walks with his dog Saxon and continues to develop his passion for motorbike riding. Most importantly, he has learned to "be present" and reconnect with parts of himself he had lost along the way, embodying the principles he now teaches others. In Nolan's own words: "The more work I do on myself, the more I discover bits of me that make life richer—being present, being happy, being loved, and just being more me for myself and all the people in my life."
Transform Your Relationship with 75 Simple Gestures He'll Never See Coming
What if the secret to deeper connection had nothing to do with grand gestures or bedroom athletics?
This eye-opening guide reveals the emotional needs men have but rarely express—and gives you 75 practical ways to meet them through meaningful touch, genuine appreciation, and intentional attention.
From the simple power of touching his forearm during conversation to understanding why he deflects your compliments, you'll discover how small, authentic gestures create profound changes. These aren't complicated techniques or time-consuming rituals—they're natural moments you can weave into your everyday life.
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