Book 2
by Nolan Collins
Transform Your Relationship with 75 Simple Gestures He'll Never See Coming
What if the secret to deeper connection had nothing to do with grand gestures or bedroom athletics?
This eye-opening guide reveals the emotional needs men have but rarely express—and gives you 75 practical ways to meet them through meaningful touch, genuine appreciation, and intentional attention.
From the simple power of touching his forearm during conversation to understanding why he deflects your compliments, you'll discover how small, authentic gestures create profound changes. These aren't complicated techniques or time-consuming rituals—they're natural moments you can weave into your everyday life.
Discover What He Really Wants (But Will Never Ask For)
What if the secret to deeper intimacy had absolutely nothing to do with the bedroom?
Most relationship advice focuses on what happens between the sheets, but the real magic happens in those quiet moments throughout your day—the way you touch his shoulder as you pass by, how you look at him when he's telling a story, or that simple act of truly seeing him for who he is (yes, even when he's left his socks on the floor again).
The Lost Art of Male Emotional Connection
Somewhere along the way, we've developed a cultural blindness to men's emotional needs. We've collectively decided that men should be satisfied with the occasional cuddle and regular meals, creating a drought of meaningful appreciation that many men long for but would rather eat their own shoes than admit to.
The truth? Men crave appreciation, touch, and emotional connection just as much as women do—they're just rubbish at asking for it.
*75 Brilliant Gestures That Transform Ordinary Moments*
This isn't about becoming a 1950s housewife or perfecting grand romantic gestures. These are authentic, practical ways to create positive connection cycles that benefit both of you. Inside, you'll discover:
✓ The pause technique that transforms simple touches into profound moments of connection
✓ How to use eye contact to make him feel truly seen and valued
✓ Intentional touch - the difference between absent-minded brushing and deliberate connection
✓ 11 essential principles to maximise every gesture's impact
✓ Real-world applications for busy couples juggling work, children, and life's general chaos
More Than Techniques - A Relationship Revolution
These gestures aren't isolated tricks—they're expressions of an underlying approach that prioritises ongoing connection over sporadic intensity. You'll learn to:
Create genuine appreciation that flows naturally in both directions
Build intimate moments without sexual expectation (revolutionary concept, we know)
Master the art of making him feel desired, valued, and truly understood
Transform your relationship through consistent patterns of attention and care
Perfect For:
Women in new relationships wanting to build deeper connection
Long-term partners seeking to reignite intimacy and appreciation
Anyone wanting to understand how to nurture a relationship that feels alive and meaningful
Couples ready to move beyond surface-level interactions and actually connect
What Makes This Different:
Unlike other relationship books, this guide focuses on that delicious territory between casual touch and sexual expectation—where intimacy flourishes without demanding anything more. It's about creating space where both of you can flourish, where appreciation flows freely, and where connection remains vibrant through all seasons of life together.
Your journey with these gestures is just beginning. Let it lead you to ever deeper connection, mutual understanding, and authentic intimacy with the man you've chosen to share your life and heart.
This is Book 2 in The Art of Non-Sexual Foreplay series. Book 1 (the men's guide) is also available for couples wanting to enhance connection from both perspectives.
“"Finally someone gets it!" "I had no idea my husband needed this kind of attention. The hand on the back of his neck thing? Game changer. He actually put his phone down and looked at me properly for the first time in months."”
Anna S
“"Wish I'd read this years ago" "Been married 12 years and thought I knew everything about my husband. Turns out I was missing so much! The chapter on understanding why men deflect compliments was an eye-opener. Already seeing changes."”
Catherine J.
Nolan Collins is a transformational coach and author who combines his diverse background across fine dining, ballroom dancing, massage therapy, and digital marketing with a remarkable gift for spotting patterns in human behavior to create accessible frameworks for personal growth.
From orchestrating servers in fine-dining restaurants to teaching massage therapy, from gliding across ballroom floors as a dancer to navigating the ever-changing world of digital marketing, Nolan has developed an exceptional ability to spot patterns where others see chaos. This pattern-recognition talent has become Nolan's signature strength, allowing him to create frameworks that make complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable. His experience teaching ballroom dancing even inspired his unique approach to parenting—once teaching his children to ride bikes using dancer's frame concepts, helping them master the skill in minutes. After facing significant personal challenges, including the shutdown of his business that led to losses of his house, cars, and self-respect, Nolan found himself in a dark place emotionally. What kept him going was the love for his children, even as he struggled to process why his life had fallen apart despite his previous resilience. This period of personal turmoil became the catalyst for Nolan's transformative work. While teaching digital marketing to apprentices, many of whom were struggling with their own sense of direction, he began developing frameworks to help them navigate shifts and changes in their lives. It was through this teaching that the RAMPIT Framework was born, followed by his discovery of the four BE Elements that drive emotional reactions. The impact of these frameworks on Nolan's own life was profound. His relationship with his children, which had deteriorated during difficult times, dramatically improved. As his son recently shared in a message that moved Nolan to tears: "We've come a long way since then. I love you." It was living proof that when Nolan changed his approach using the BE Elements, relationships around him transformed too. Today, Nolan is dedicated to sharing his frameworks for emotional regulation and self-coaching through his books, courses, and community programs. His writing style balances depth with accessibility, often using humor and personal stories to illustrate complex concepts. He has a gift for making readers feel as though he's speaking directly to them in a compassionate, empowering conversation. Nolan now lives near Cambridge, UK, where he enjoys countryside walks with his dog Saxon and continues to develop his passion for motorbike riding. Most importantly, he has learned to "be present" and reconnect with parts of himself he had lost along the way, embodying the principles he now teaches others. In Nolan's own words: "The more work I do on myself, the more I discover bits of me that make life richer—being present, being happy, being loved, and just being more me for myself and all the people in my life."
(That could have changed your life, and will change your kids’ lives.)
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